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The Rulebook ~ Picking Up Women
Rules to follow for attracting, approaching, seducing and speaking to women. Follow these rules and you'll always do and say the right things. Many of the most important rules can be found in this section.
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  • While gaming a woman, constantly repeat her name, it will be like music to her ears. For example "Stop trying to seduce me, Jill... I know what you're up to!" instead of "Stop trying to seduce me... I know what you're up to!" To further amplify the potency of this technique, you can even pet name your target, which will create a stronger connection between the two of you and allow you to "stake your claim" on her indirectly.
  • Never appear to be intimidated by a woman, even if you are scared to death because of her beauty. Beautiful women are accustomed to men being intimidated by them and ONLY find the men who aren't to be attractive. In order to properly seduce a high caliber woman, you need to convey the image that you deal with her type all of the time and that she doesn't impress you at all. Make HER work for YOUR affection, not the other way around!
  • Never talk negatively about your life or your job, or anything for that matter (except for your target of interest). Although by nature our motives may be different, women are ultimately searching for a companion, so why would she want to share her life with someone that is not satisfied with their own. Never talk negatively about your ex-girlfriends either, which is a very common mistake because you should never talk about your ex at all.
  • When asked what you plan to do with your life, or what you are currently doing to improve yourself always show great ambition. Women are extremely attracted to ambitious men, because when you explain your high goals and plans for yourself she will be thinking "Maybe this guy will be important someday, or maybe he is already". Women are drawn to the "go getter" type of man, and in turn they shun those who appear to be lazy and lack motivation. You should strive to make everyone, not only women, believe that you are a man who is going places in life.
  • Never look at the ground or at your shoes while talking to a woman. This is a sign of insecurity (which women are extremely turned off by) and they will pick up on this immediately, resulting in all of the progress you've made thus far being erased. Your own body language plays a larger role in your overall game than you might think, so it would be wise to always have the positive, confident posture of an alpha male at all times.
  • Knowledge is power. Always listen to and observe everything, including other's conversations. If you take the time to observe a woman before you approach her, you may notice something she is doing, wearing or talking about which in-a-way "tells you" what to say when you try to spark up a conversation with her. It is a common myth that in order to be successful you need to approach a woman immediately once you've seen her. Once your skills have evolved you will easily be able to think of unique openers to use impromptu in the field, but during your journey of skill development it is much more important to plan your moves properly than it is to act upon impulse. Take baby steps and give yourself room to grow, this is not an overnight process.
  • This is a no-brainer: Never call the next day. You will appear to be desperate with nothing better to do. You want to project that you are "in demand" and that you are busy, which will make you seem exciting, fun and mysterious. If you game a woman effectively during your initial meeting with her, chances are you won't need to call her at all because she'll call you first. On that note, it would be wise to always exchange numbers with a woman rather than only getting one from her. This is easily done by handing her your cell phone and telling her to put her number in it, then once she's finished you simply call her immediately so she has your number as well.
  • Never try to impress a woman by telling her about the things that you own or the stuff you have done. If you do so, you will come off as bragging, which is most definitely not something that women find attractive in a man. Actions speak much louder than words, so it is in your best interest to SHOW her why you are someone of high social status.
  • Never bring up your ex-girlfriend(s) unless a woman asks you about them. It is usually a bad topic choice for the conversation (especially with a woman you've just met) so you should try to avoid it as much as possible. If however, you are stuck and must speak about your ex(s), say something nice about her/them and quickly change the subject to something better suited for seduction. This can easily be done with a statement like this: "My last girlfriend was cool, it just didn't work out so we broke up just before New Years. I had a blast afterwards, a friend and I went to..." It's that easy.
  • Make as many women friends as possible, especially unattractive ones. They'll always have hot friends and if you don't already know, a woman's opinion of you will be greatly affected by what their friends say. Make friends with her friends and you'll be in there like swim wear :) There are many ways that you can use a hot babe's friends to your advantage, so never underestimate the power of an ugly friend. Also, when you open a set with more than one woman, NEVER avoid talking to the women that are not your target of interest. Actually, if you want to ignore one of the women, it would be best to avoid the one that you are most attracted to.
  • SMILE. Remember to smile constantly; while your talking, while your listening, while your doing just about anything. I can not stress this rule enough, smiling is the most powerful weapon in any player's arsenal. It let's the women know that your probably a fun guy to be around and someone they would like to know or be involved with. This single rule alone can improve your success with women by over 100%, use it wisely. Smiling builds comfort and rapport with women, which are both necessary aspects of seduction and will be your downfall if they are neglected. However, don't overdo your smiling and walk around like your face is stuck that way, it's creepy. Smile enough to be viewed as approachable and likeable, but only in appropriate amounts.
  • When rejected, just smile and walk away. Who cares what she thinks, you probably won't ever see her again anyway. Besides, it's her loss and she just missed out on a good time with a great guy. Go out looking to get rejected, because once you become comfortable with girls saying no, your fear of rejection will be gone. Desensitizing yourself to rejection takes time but it is a necessary aspect of building your skills, so you should always approach women with an open mind knowing that if they do reject you, it's nothing personal. Remember that the player who gets rejected the most is the player who leaves with the most numbers!
  • Never say "How about giving me your number?". Always use something like "I'd like to talk to you again, is there a number I can reach you at?". This always produces much better results because she must avoid saying "no" or she will sound stupid because that will mean there is not a number she can be reached at. It also makes you more original than every other idiot that asks for her number. Another great approach is to simply hand her your cell phone and tell her (don't ASK her, tell her) to put her number in it. The first example is an open-ended way to ask for her number, while the second is a forceful way to get her number. Both are equally effective so experiment around with them to find out which you prefer using.
  • Be aware of her mood before approaching. If she is in a bad mood your chances of success are drastically less than if she was in a good mood. Do not try to cheer her up either, you may be able to make her feel slightly better if you are funny, but she will relate you to the bad feelings subconsciously, which is not a good thing in the long run. The only consistent way to approach a woman that is in a bad mood is to "mirror" her mood yourself and appear to "be in the same boat" as her. By doing this, she will feel better knowing that she is not alone in her state of mind and will be receptive to you opening her up.
  • Always compliment women and they will always feel good about you, but don't overdue it or they will think your just trying to score points (which you are, but you don't want them to know that). Try to sound sincere and give her a unique compliment that most people will overlook. Once you've gotten comfortable with complimenting women in general, the next step is to begin giving them negative compliments (negs) in order to disqualify yourself as someone that is trying to pick them up. By doing this, you will have a non-threatening presence from then on and will be able to game her from a much more powerful position. The basic form of a neg is a positive followed by a negative, for example "I like the color of your shirt, but it fits a little funny on you... is it too small?"
  • Never try to become a "friend" when you first meet a girl. You must show her that you are attracted to her and would like to pursue a romantic relationship immediately, because once you're dropped into the "friends zone"... it's nearly to impossible to get out. You must learn to convey your SEXUAL interest in a woman to her very quickly, which is typically done by saying something to her that a friend would never say, such as "You turn me on" or "You're sexy".
  • Never talk about how cool, mean, bad, tough or strong you are. If she thinks that you are full OF yourself, you will end up going home to fool WITH yourself, catch my drift? Women hate braggers, but women LOVE showboats! Show her why you are cool and worthy of her attention, don't tell her.
  • Never talk too much or bring up subjects that will be boring to her, let her initiate the topics of discussion and do most of the talking while you simply relate yourself to her statements by saying things like "me too". This will make the two of you seem to have alot in common and her opinion of you will shoot through the roof. However, this is only a technique that should be used very sparingly and never during the initial stages of your interaction with her. You are treading on thin ice when you attempt to relate to her too much, and are running the risk of getting lost in the dreaded friends zone as many AFCs do.
  • Quit worrying about what to say next and focus your attention on listening. She will give you leads as to what she would like to talk about, in essence, telling you want to say next. For example: you say "How are you doing?" she says "I got a 50 cent raise today, but then I got a flat tire on my way home from work, so I guess I'm doing ok". She just gave you two leads that hint at what she is willing to talk about, all you've got to do is pick one. You can either choose to stroke her ego: "Cool, you probably deserved the raise" or tease her "Well, how did you earn the raise (while staring directly at her tits and smiling playfully)".
  • Be careful about what you say about yourself. Never say "I suck at..." or "I can't do that". Always speak positively about yourself. You're supposed to be acting in a confident manner at all times, remember? How you speak about yourself is a direct projection of how insecure you are and how much self esteem you have, so always speaking highly about yourself (without bragging) will show other that you are an attractive, high status man that is worthy of any woman's attention. You can't ever expect others to respect you if you do not respect yourself!
  • When going to a club or bar in search of women, bring a female friend instead of going with your boys. This will give everyone the idea that you are already taken, and men that are already taking are almost twice as appealing to women than single men. By the time you talk to a girl and she realizes that your actually not taken, the damage is already done and her heightened opinion of you will remain. Your female friend can also prove to be a huge asset as well, and can help you open and close sets just as a good wingman could.
  • Tell her a joke, because jokes stick in your head. Each time she thinks about the joke she will think about you, and the more she thinks about you the better your chances are. However, be very careful when choosing a joke to tell... if you tell her a corny joke or something that is not funny you may end up in a worse position than you started in. If you want to learn some really funny jokes that I have personally told to women before, sign up for The Player's Newsletter... it's totally free and I put a new joke in each issue as well as a ton of great information on picking up girls!
  • When deciding whether or not to approach a particular woman, just assume that she is interested in you and act the same way you would with a woman that you know for a fact is interested in you. This will give you confidence and the woman will pick up on this, in turn making her more attracted to you. One of the best techniques for getting yourself comfortable with approaching new women is to pretend as if they are already your girlfriend, which will take away a huge amount of your stress and allow you to game them with a clear mind.
  • Never approach a woman the minute she arrives at the bar, club or party. If you do, you are doomed for failure. Instead, give her time to get used to the her surroundings while you observe her actions and wait for the right time to make your approach... but don't wait too long! If you wait too long you are running the risk of many bad things happening, the worst being : You talk yourself out of doing it at all, or even worse... someone else approaches her first. Which obviously, would suck.
  • If you get rejected, take a break for a few minutes before approaching another woman, because most women will be insulted if they think that they are your second choice. The scene at a club or bar is constantly changing, so you only need to wait for a short period of time before approaching another woman. Chances are she won't remember you talking to the other girl if you wait awhile (if she even noticed in the first place). This is why multi-room clubs are the best scene for practicing pick up artist, because if you can constantly switch rooms between sets.


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