Learn tips that will teach you how to be confident around women and how to believe in yourself. An often overlooked, yet very important aspect of the game is what goes on inside of your own head.
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Inner Game Tips - Learn tips that will teach you how to be confident around women and how to believe in yourself. An often overlooked, yet very important aspect of the game.
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The Inner Game Tips...
Fear of rejection
Fear is the #1 reason men fail with women. You usually experience fear when you are not confident or don't have experience in a certain situation. One effective technique to overcome fear is to go out and say "hey" to everyone that you walk pass with a smile on your face. After that you can advance to small talk, then conversations and so on. But overall, you will not get over your fear unless you are exposed to it. That remains a fact. Just remember that when you overcome this you will be amazed and proud of how confident you have become than you were before in your social interactions with women. Now get out there and practice, and fear nothing. - by JasonSonic
Stop wishing and start living
You know that guy who has that one look you wish you had? Maybe his hair is straighter, his eyes are a bit bigger, has a smaller nose, anything like that. He has that one thing that you wish you could have. Well stop wishing. Just know that there is definitely something he is really insecure about, and when he looks at you, he wishes he could have your nose, or your ears, or anything else. No one is perfect, except those that realize their imperfections, embrace them, and move on with their lives. - by Moose
True confidence
One of the most important, if not the most important aspect of your game is called confidence. What is it really? It is having the ability within your own self to do things with no doubt in one’s mind to accomplish something. 100% trust in oneself, and belief in yourself. It is not having your chest out, shoulders back and head high. No, that's acting it is far more than that. Quit worrying about how to look confident and just become confident. It is a main character that women are attracted to. Woman will never be satisfied with a bet character guy. Be that confident guy, and show everyone how you truly are. Always keep your Inner Game up at top level. - by Jorge
Value value value
If you want to be successful with gorgeous girls the number one thing you should remember is you should be the leader of the pack, the guy everyone looks up to. You've got to have value. You won't believe how many guys have a few unsuccessful closes and start to question their ability and undo all their hard work. Inner game and outer game goes hand in hand. Think highly of yourself and others will think highly of you - including gorgeous women. - YoungCasual
Over thinking
Have you ever found yourself thinking so much that you've completely drifted out of reality? When you've just been blown out of a set and you don't know what you've done wrong, you retrace your steps in hopes to find the answers. Over thinking will get you nowhere but create more stress. One way of finding out if you're over thinking is to consciously be aware of your problem, however if you find yourself scrunching your eyebrows and tensing your facial expressions to understand- simply stop and look at something else. You're over thinking again. - Sinful
Confidence building
The best advice I can give for confidence is this: Change your life style. Change your perception on how you view things, because perception shapes reality. Change how you see things and your reality will change your confidence levels. Live for yourself and do things that make you happy. Do things you are good at. Confidence more or less boils down to knowing what you are doing. Try picking up a hobby or do something that you are good at and make you feel good. Accomplishing feats through action is what builds character and confidence. - Player87
Self esteem
One great way to boost your self esteem is to start dressing better. Improve your looks. Take the extra time in the morning to do your hair, get your hair cut every few weeks. Invest in some good facial moisturizers for the morning. Go tanning. It will boost your self esteem, not to mention help get rid of unwanted acne, and makes you darker and more attractive to women. Another interesting correlation in life is that when your self esteem goes up, so does your confidence and your ability to pick up and seduce beautiful women. To sum it all up; start taking care of yourself. Women notice small details. Before you leave your house in the morning and go out at night, take an extra 5 seconds to look in the mirror. Notice how great you look, and then go out feeling confident. - Player87
Quick confidence booster
Just think about this: At least one girl has masturbated thinking of you. That's right. I don't care if you're fat, ugly, or have no game. At least one girl has played some downstairs DJ fantasizing about you. They've dreamed about what it'd be like to have sex with you. Just keep that in the back of your mind, save it for later, you never know when you might need it. - Moose
The alpha male!
Alpha in Greek is the first letter! It comes first, and the same can be said of Alpha Males, they come first. To be that guy, just be a real man; a man not governed by rules of society that apply to second-class men! Alpha = First class! So just show your MAN characteristics such as leadership, self-belief, self-confidence, positive attitude, no second-class behavior, no toleration of degrading or negative actions, and so on. Just be a MAN, just be YOU. Be the alpha! - Player87
Scared?
Fear. This little four letter word can cause even the best looking men on the planet to fail with women, so if you think that you are a loser simply because you are afraid to approach women think again... we have ALL been afraid to approach a good looking woman before (and yes this includes me). Fear holds us back from becoming what we want to be and getting the most out of life, and this applies to all aspects of life not just picking up girls... it's one of the most important factors that separates those that succeed and those that fail. Even though fear is universal in the way that it can effect all areas of a person's life... one simple fact remains : As soon as you face your fear, it disappears. However, if you continue to run away from your fear you will be running forever... and the further you run the more room your fear has to grow. The only way to completely get past your fear is to run towards it, it's not going to kill you and will only make you stronger. The next time you see a beautiful girl that you want to talk to and that little voice inside of your head is trying to talk you out of it (that is your fear talking)... tell yourself that you will no longer be controlled by fear and that from now on YOU are in control, then get over there and talk to that girl. To some of you this may sound like a hard thing to do, but trust me... as soon as you are finished talking to her you will feel much better, and much less scared to approach women.
I shall improve
Picking up women is all about self improvement, just as much as it is about learning and practicing skills. You should always be trying to improve yourself, because improvement means better... and women are attracted to better men. The first step in improving yourself is to properly identify your good and bad qualities so that you can determine which areas of yourself need to be improved. Get out a pen and paper and write down the top 5 good qualities that you have that you think help you with getting women... then write down your top 5 qualities that you think stop you from getting women also. After you've done this you should begin to work on improving your bad qualities so that you can bring them into line with your good ones, which will make you a more well-rounded and attractive individual. You should also focus on using your good qualities more often now that you have identified them, because that will help you succeed more often with women. This may seem simple but just give it a try... if you have never really thought much about your personal traits then you may find that there is really a lot more to your personality than you know.
R E S P E C T, find out what it means to me
Respect is very important. You can't hope to get girls to sleep with you if they don't respect you... and even if you manage to it will only be because they are using you for other purposes and feel that you will not give them what they want unless sex is involved. In turn you must also have a certain level of respect for the women in your life... but at the same time even more respect for yourself. It is human nature to view people without confidence as unworthy of respect, so it should be obvious that you will first need to have a degree of confidence in yourself before you can expect to gain the respect of a woman. You are a man, and you need to let girls know that, and show them that you will not tolerate any level of disrespect towards you... which can only be done if you first have the respect of your friends and family. This is because people tend to be led by example, and if you bring a girl out and a friend of yours comes along and she notices that he is showing you disrespect and thinks lower of you, she will most likely view this as ok and begin to do the same herself. People will ALWAYS take advantage of others if given even the slightest opportunity, so always keep your guard up and stand up for yourself in even the smallest conflicts so you never fall into a situation in which people begin to show you disrespect... because one person doing it can quickly turn into ten in the blink of an eye.
In due time...
Greed is a bad thing, this we all know... and just as it is not good to get greedy when dealing with money, the same can be said for when you are dealing with women. Just like most skills that you can gain in life, you can't expect to get everything all at once... so in this case you can't assume that you will be able to go out and pull ANY girl right away. You need to start off slow and get some average girls before you can go ahead and get the perfect 10's, this will allow your skills the time they will need to properly develop. You can think of it as being similar to bodybuilding : If you train yourself hard for one week straight you will get a little bigger... but not much. However, if you continue training hard for another 6 months... you will get huge. Nothing worth having in life comes overnight, be patient and work hard... then you will have everything that you desire in due time.
The all-powerful mind
Do you have the problem of being shy around large groups of people, like when you go to a party or club? I had this same problem a while ago, I solved it by learning to "zone" in on particular people... like once I noticed a girl I liked, I would pretend that nobody else was around and then go up and talk to her, or if a girl came up to me i would immediately focus all of my attention on her and never look around at anyone else, this also helps you maintain good eye contact. If you feel much more comfortable around groups of people when you have a few of your close friends around you, but still have trouble with the initial starting up of conversations with girls, you can try this easy trick ; simply "pretend" that you've know the girl for a long time, as if you are already friends... that helps take the edge off of "talking to someone new" and can work wonders, give it a shot.
Build up that confidence boy
Constantly tell yourself how attractive you are... how any woman would be blown away by you if you sat down and had a chat and they got to know you. Tell yourself these types of things every day for one month, then take a good look at yourself in the mirror and you will notice that you actually DO look much better than you think. This will also boost your confidence at an amazing rate.
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