Flirting 101
“God must be sad, because heaven’s missing an angel.”
This cheesy pick-up line is probably the saddest example of how some men flirt with girls. Unfortunately, lame attempts at approaching the opposite sex don’t end there. When it comes to effective seduction, most men don’t have a clue.
A lot of guys only scratch the surface when attempting to flirt. In their minds, if they can just strike up a conversation with a girl, they’re in. Unfortunately, true seduction is much more complex, requiring the demonstration of sexuality and physical attraction. When you put these all together, you have to show off an attractive personality in order to catch a woman’s interest.
In other words, you have to establish a rapport.
Rapport is just a fancy word for flirting, but with one major difference…it’s effective. When two people have established a rapport together, they have a genuine interest in each other. In short, they’ve clicked.
If you’re unsure of how to make flirting through rapport work for you, continue reading. The following are 5 tips on flirting with girls . Incorporate these into your seduction efforts, and you’ll be leaps ahead of the male competition.
Tip #1 – Understand flirting.
Flirting is more than just complimenting a girl. If you want her to return the gesture, you have to create sexual tension. In short, when a woman feels sexual tension towards you, she’s attracted, but she’s unsure of how you feel. This only heightens her interest in you.
Flirt with her the very second you meet her, thereby setting the wheels in motion. From there, joke around and lightly tease her. By play fighting with her, you’ll create an indirect feeling of rapport within her psyche, and she’ll crave you even more.
Tip #2 – Be cocky, but use humor.
The mixture of cockiness with humor is a great technique. The idea behind this approach is to elevate your status within her eyes, thereby making her work harder to gain your approval.
For example, if she says something you don’t agree with, contradict her statement (cockiness), but do so in a teasing manner (humor). The combination of these two elements is a recipe for sexual tension. As with anything, however, use this technique in moderation, and see to it that your cockiness doesn’t bleed over into arrogance.
Tip #3 – Create a sexually-tense conversation.
Your objective with flirting is to showcase yourself in a sexual light. You want her to view you as a possible lover, not a friend, and to do so, you must incorporate sex into your conversation.
Before you get all hot and bothered, understand that I don’t mean you should act like a pig. Rather, you should introduce the topic of sex in an indirect manner. Telling a few of your friends’ funny sex stories is a good way to accomplish this.
A buddy of mine has a trick that’s worked well for him. In essence, he jokes about marrying the girl, and he’ll banter with her about what their house would be like. Once she says something he can tease her about, he’ll tell her that “it’s over” or he wants a divorce.
The combination of romance and teasing drives women nuts!
Tip #4 – Touch her.
Now that you know some elements for a good conversation, it’s time to up the ante. In other words, it’s time to touch her.
If you can establish physical contact with a girl, you’re well on your way to the bedroom. To accomplish this, identify key points during an interaction when it would be appropriate to make contact. If you’re walking through a crowd, grab her hand, and touch the small of her back as you hold the door open for her. When talking to her, touch her arm to stress a point.
These moves are subtle, but believe me…she’ll notice.
Tip #5 – Talk adventurously.
Women crave excitement. With that said, the more adventure you’ve got going on in your life, the more attracted she’ll be to you.
Before I get into how you can appear more exciting, I’d like to stress that you should never brag in front of a girl. Arrogance does more harm than good. Instead, inject adventurous stories into your conversation. Wild road trips, crazy travels, or projects you’ve got going on are great for enhancing your image.
Once you’ve grabbed her attention, try talking about all the fun stuff she could do with you. Once again, don’t brag. Instead, mention a few of the things you enjoy that she might also be interested in. This will further convince her that she’s attracted to you.
Final Thoughts
If you want to learn tips on flirting with girls, you’ll have to abandon the cheesy pick-up lines, and learn how to really talk to women. By establishing a high status and sexual nature from the start, you’ll be well on your way to creating the rapport necessary for successful flirting. Incorporate these 5 tips into your efforts, and any woman will be putty in your hands.
Steve Scott
Author of Flirt Mastery
The "Flirt Mastery" system contains 283 pages of proven techniques for building sexual tension EVERY time you talk to women. Created from a PROVEN formula, this guide was specifically created to help whenever you want to ATTRACT a woman. Check it out!
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