Take a good step back while a blow the dust off of this ancient topic, you don't want to get anything in your eyes. I'm going to bring this basic concept back from the dead, and shed some new light on how you should view first impressions from a new perspective that will transform your way of thinking when it comes to first meeting someone new.
While writing this, I am assuming that everyone who reads it will have already been exposed to some basic advice on how to make a good first impression on others. Every single seduction book author, every “Dr. Phil” type of counselor, every mother, and basically anyone else who has given someone else dating advice, has said “you need to make a good first impression”.
I think this advice sucks.
Don't get me wrong, I do think it is a step in the right direction and can really help you out during the early phases of your journey into the world of learning proper seduction. However, when compared to my much more powerful way of thinking about first impressions, it just doesn't hold it's ground:
Don't Make Good First Impressions, Make Unforgettable Ones
Sounds pretty straightforward doesn't it? Well it is, and it isn't. Some guys who read that may get the right idea and realize that when I say unforgettable I am talking about extremely unique, like one-in-a-lifetime unique. However, they might not apply the concept properly and end up doing something so outrageous that it makes them look like an ass. On the other hand, some guys may think that unforgettable simply means to make an “extra-good” first impression and then attempt to be overly cool or suave, making them look like an ass as well, or just corny.
To avoid these issues, here is my exact definition of what this is:
Unforgettable First Impression: A rare first meeting by which one person greets the other in an unique manner in which the other person has never been greeted before. Regardless of it's rarity, the greeting is still welcoming, charming and alluring, never awkward or creepy.
Get it? The key word in that definition is unique. When you first approach a new woman your overall first impression should be unique in a cool way, and something that she most definitely has never been exposed to before. As with all “firsts” in life, people tend to remember them, so when you do this properly it forces others to remember you as well. Why make just a good first impression and hope that the chick remembers you when you can make an unforgettable first impression and know for certain that she will?
There is an easy way to test if you are truly making unforgettable first impressions or not, which I so creatively have titled the “First Call Name Test”.
The First Call Name Test
After you get a woman's number, when you go to call her for the first time, do you simply say “Hey, it's Alex”, or do you feel the need to follow that up with something else to force her to remember who you are, like “Hey, it's Alex... from the bar last night”. If you feel the need to say anything other than just your name, then you haven't made an unforgettable first impression.
When you really make an unforgettable first impression on someone, you will just know it. When you call them later on, even if it's a week or two later, you should be confident enough to just say your name and expect them to remember who you are; any extra “hints” at your identity will be unnecessary.
How This Is Done Properly
Well, I'm not going to do the usual “here's a few examples of how I've done it” routine that you guys have probably all become accustomed to. Don't try asking me for examples in a response to this article either, because I won't give any. This is for your own good, because this is one of those few strategies that can be utterly ruined if you “copy & paste” someone else's examples into your game.
What I'm trying to say is, this will only work if you come up with the “lines” on your own. I also highly recommend making everything situational by not pre-planning anything, but rather coming up with it all impromptu just before greeting someone.
Even though I am not going to be giving you guys some examples in order to avoid confusion and misuse of this technique, I will be laying down the general rules that you should follow in order to stay on the right track and ensure that your first impressions are unforgettable:
Rules:
Don't start with a question. The first thing out of your mouth should NEVER be a question, because this is the most common thing that people do when greeting new people. Avoid it completely.
Immediately before approaching someone new, always ask yourself the question: “Has anyone ever greeted ME in this fashion?” If you can answer yes, then don't do it. Your first impression needs to be one-of-a-kind, if someone already did it to you, then it isn't.
I know you've heard this one before, but I still have to mention it because it is very important and can make or break a first impression: Keep your energy level higher than or at least equal to that of the person that you are greeting.
Always make sure that whatever you are going to do or say is genuinely enjoyable and intriguing. You don't want to appear as if you are forcing it in a direct attempt to “impress” them, which means no magic tricks, storytelling or jokes allowed. Save that stuff for later.
Try to never use the same first impression routine twice. I know this is a hard rule to follow because you may stumble upon a few that work really good and will feel the urge to use them on every woman that you see, that is why I used the word “try”. You don't have to throw away your good strategies, just only reuse them as a last resort when you can't think of something new. At least, try not to use the same routine more than once per week.
Make sure to always keep yourself from taking it too far. You can easily go overboard when trying to pull this off and end up looking needy, creepy, strange or corny. Doing jumping jacks while you are opening and saying “Hi, I'm Alex” is definitely guaranteed to make for a truly unforgettable first impression, but it's also guaranteed to never get you laid.
Have a good time. Yes, this is one of the rules, because if you aren't having a good time yourself while first meeting someone, then you can be certain that they aren't having any fun either. Keep everything fresh, cool, and most of all, enjoyable.
Conclusion?
The end of this article should be the beginning of you making unforgettable first impressions. As soon as you finish reading this I want you to push the power button on your PC, throw something decent on, then go out and try to make your first unforgettable impression. Do not stick around to read something else or check your e-mail, go right now. Do this while it is still fresh in your mind, because having this knowledge is pointless if you don't use it.
Go.
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