Whenever someone seeks advice on how to win back a woman that has been lost, they are always given the standard answer by the community, which is that “you should never obsess over a single woman and it’s better to forget her and find one of the million others like her.” They’ll give stats about the world’s population and number of women available for you to approach in an effort to convince you to stop attempting to win over a single woman, and they only do this for your own good. What they’re saying is true, it is very unhealthy to focus all of your time and life on trying to get a single girl, or any girls for that point. This is never the answer that anyone wants to hear, although it is the best solution in most cases. However, there are always exceptions to every case and rules are made to be broken. We know that you’re going to try and get that girl that you can’t get out of your head, the girl you’ve been head-over-heels crazy about for six months, no matter what we say is best for you. My take on the matter is that as long as you’re going to try, you might as well be prepared!
There is no single line you can recite or thing you can do that will finally open the girl of your dreams eyes to the reality that you are the man for her. The harder you try to make her see this; she will only see more desperation, the opposite of your intended effect. This is common knowledge, of course, but your strong, in-control vibe is something that has to be a constant through the entire process of winning a woman back. Another thing that must be understood is that this will not be an overnight process. A man who is attractive to women is a man who is successful, happy, and lives life on his own terms. Women are looking for a man who has value and energy to offer to them, they need enhancement to their dull lives. Ever wonder why the “bad boy” concept is so appealing to women? He does what he wants and doesn’t seek anyone’s approval. The only person that is in control of his life is him, and that dominance is the most attractive quality a man can have. Women get off on power; this is a big reason why the “nice guys” can never seem to win. It’s not because they’re good people, it’s the weak and unsure way that they present themselves. As much as men fail to realize it, the more attention they give to a woman, the weaker it makes them appear. What kind of a man has nothing better to do than to sit and pine over a woman all day long, while the real man is out there enjoying himself?
That is what will win you the woman that you’ve lost! Women can always be re-gamed after you have failed. Once a period of time has passed, you can always change their mind. Nothing is impossible, but this requires a true change. You see, the key to winning the woman is fixing what went wrong in the first place. If you come back as the same person and try and use the same game that didn’t work the first time, you’re done for good. Take time to improve yourself as a person. This is one of the most difficult things that we can ask of you, it would be much easier for me to give you a couple of lines to say and leave you to fend for yourself. But that wouldn’t be fair to you. Anything that is worth having comes with a price, and the price for being good with women is dedication. The goal of this is getting the woman that you’ve lost, but you’ll gain so much more than that in the process. Take a look at this from the woman’s shoes and ask yourself the question, “Would I date myself?” If the answer is not a resounding yes, and a truthful yes at that, you need to take action. Don’t expect her to fall for you simply because you want her to, “fairness” plays no part in the game of love. Besides, it’s not fair for her to be stuck with a man who doesn’t want to improve himself. If you’re not happy with yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to be. Improve yourself and come back to the woman as an entirely new and improved version of yourself, that’s the only way that you can ever expect to succeed!
Before we wrap this up (no pun intended), here’s a step-by-step guide to keep you on track:
1) Step back and take a break! Give the situation time; it’s essential for the re-gaming of the girl and your preparation for this.
2) Stop trying so hard! When you finally let go and stop trying to manipulate every second of every interaction with this girl, it’s when things will start going in your favor.
3) Start taking control in life. Not just with women, either, in all areas. Be a man of decision and action, never doubt yourself. Usually when a man loses a woman, it’s because he’s trying to win her over. Whenever you make her the prize to win, you kill your value, in your eyes and hers. When you re-game this girl, take control of it, and make sure there is no doubt that you are the prize to be won.
4) Fix what needs fixing. The old saying “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” is true, but if it is broken, you need to fix it. If you try to get the girl back with the same things that you used when you lost her, expect the same results.
5) Make a plan for self-improvement and stick with it, no matter what. Do this for yourself and the benefit of any girl you will meet, the better you are as a person, the better all of your relationships with friends and women will be!
6) Remember that the past is the past! Once you feel that enough time has passed (usually a few months or weeks, depending on your situation) and that you’re ready to get back in the ring with this girl, don’t let the past mess up the future! Give it all you have without looking back, because if you stay focused on the past, that’s where things will remain. She’ll notice the new you as long as you have truly improved yourself and let go of the stress and neediness that might have spelled your doom the first time. Learn from your mistakes and excel the second time around.
Happy hunting!
The author of this article, GoinPhoenix, is a member of an elite team of seduction gurus known as The Inner Circle (TIC). To learn more about TIC, their amazing work with the Paragon Project, and to download their free 200+ page Crash Course in seduction, Click Here.
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